How to get an instant reality check on your life!

5 min
October 6, 2020

We all encounter days that we feel a bit down and gloomy, or that life, in general, is going great but something is feeling off. We might experience sensations of not being in balance yet we can't quite point out what or where this feeling is coming from. We think long about what it could be, perhaps talk with a friend about it but all we end up with are assumptions instead of a nice clear idea and a framework to work with.

Wouldn't it be amazing to have access 24/7 to a tool that can give us answers? Something that might give us an instant reality check on how we are doing in our lives? Perhaps allowing us to look at which areas in life we feel more and less satisfied with and how to bring balance back amongst them? Well, then I have some exciting news for you! There is and it is called the wheel of life. Let me tell you all about it, all you need is a piece of paper and pen.

The Wheel of Life

This beauty of a tool is around since the '60s, invented by Paul J. Meyer - founder of Success Motivation Institute Inc, and is still standing strong due to its simplicity. The wheel of life is a pie chart, usually 8 - 10 slices, based on important categories of people's life.

The chart I usually work with has 10 slices, each one consisting of the following categories:

Personal Development, Emotions, Romance, Friends, Family, Fun & Recreation, Finance, Health, Work, Time management.

You have the option to remove categories or combine two, such as Friends and Family, so you have space for another category for example, Passion or Hobby.

In each category, you ask yourself how satisfied you are today and give it a score between 1-10. Where 1 is very unsatisfied and 10 very satisfied. Try not to overthink it, be as honest as possible and feel encouraged to write down the number that first comes to mind.

Once everything is filled in it might look something like the example below:

Having a visual in hand on how you perceive your life can be quite confronting. Try not to get discouraged by this sensation and let it be a guide on how you want to give direction to your life today.

In the example above the categories with a high score (8-10) might not necessarily need much attention now as they are already extremely satisfying. We only need to make sure to maintain that and allow improvements when in need.

While the categories with a score between 1 and 4 should be the ones to focus on, asking these 3 simple, yet powerful questions on each category;

  • What is the reason you gave this low score?
  • How would the ideal situation look like? (How would a high score look like?) Feel encouraged to visualize it as this can help a lot to define what you are looking for and how to get there.
  • What can you do today to change the current situation? (What can you do to increase the score?)

From the example, we can see that the categories Time management and Fun & Recreation have a low score. The response to the first question for the category Time management might look like this:

"I am the worst in Time-Management. I feel like I don't have enough hours in a week to spend time on things I really like to do such as drawing."

How would the ideal situation look like?
"Feeling relaxed, not rushed and simply sitting down to draw for a couple of hours, especially after a hectic working day. Having a beautiful, nice and neat working station! Swapping some of my Netflix evenings, with creative drawing evenings.

What can you do today to change the current situation?
"Instead of watching Netflix tonight I am going to tidy up the large dinner table. I will transform half of the dinner table to my drawing station. Then I will sort out my pencils and put them in the nice box I got for my birthday last year, which I will place together with my sketchbooks on the table. Tonight I will draw a birthday card for my friend"

The answers in this example show a lack of time-management skills which lead to missing out on fun and relaxing things to do, such as drawing. Thinking and visualizing about how the ideal situation looks like activates the possibilities and narrows it down to a clear picture. The final question is about transforming this picture into an easy action plan. In the end, all categories are in one way or another linked to each other. For this particular example, it looks like the category Fun & Recreation is marked with a low score because of the limited time implemented for something fun like drawing, and this is directly related to time-management.

Are you getting the hang of how simple and successful this tool can be? Amazing, right? And if you want to give it an extra boost, look at the categories with a neutral number between 5 and 7 and feel encouraged to use the same 3 questions.

The wheel of life is a simple, yet powerful tool to get an instant picture of how your life is on any given day. The 3 easy questions will help you to find out why you gave this score, how you would rather like it to be and what you can do today to make a change. So whenever you feel like getting some clarity I invite you to draw a nice big circle on a piece of paper, divide it into 10 slices and assign the categories you want to get instant answers on today.

Do you feel like getting some help with the wheel of life or implement changes? Feel encouraged to book a Free Consultation!

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